(The following is
an exercise from Nancy Slonim Aronie's Writing from the Heart:
Tapping the Power of Your Inner Voice:
Write about your
relationship to process. Write about one thing you have [gotten
better at] or would like to get better at. Make a contract with
yourself: I ______ hereby agree to learn ______.)
It used to be that Process and I
were hardly on speaking terms. I spent most of my time pining after
the unattainable Perfect Product, with his designer shoes and his
faux-diamond smile: it was as if I believed that if I just lay around
hoping and moping long enough, he'd rescue me from my own
insecurities about how to begin, and, once begun, how to continue.
At 13 or 14, I made myself a
banner that read, “The Future depends on Today” – and, as I lay
on my bed dreaming about everything I was going to accomplish, just
as soon as I got up the oomph to get off my lazy butt and, say, start
my homework, I would periodically glance at my banner and feel as
though my future self were watching me and tsk-tsking. It wasn't
until I was 19 or 20 that I finally figured out how the process of
actually doing my schoolwork related to getting the grades I wanted.
I guess I'm a slow learner. Maybe
it's not surprising that I'm still hashing out the process-product
problem in the writing arena. It's only been very recently that I've
shifted my attention from daydreaming about what it would be like to
have written
something worthwhile to actually doing some real writing.
I'm glad I'm no longer in the
subjunctive with my writing process. I'm glad I have more of a handle
on what it's like to Just Write.
However, writing anything more
complicated than a blog entry continues to feel like a leap in the
dark. My process is still largely a mystery to me. And I find it hard
to “honor my process” when I'm not sure what it IS.
So far, I've been able to gather
only that inspiration is available in many forms, most of which I am
unable to access until I've done a certain amount of running around
in circles.
What this means is that, as a
writer, I'm just not going to be efficient. With more experience, I
may be able to streamline the crazy contraption I'm currently using
to get from Point A to Point B, but I suspect that trial and error
are necessary components of any writer's process, mine included. I'm
not real keen on error, so this is a real stretch for me. I just have
to keep reminding myself that anything worth doing is worth doing
badly – at least at first, at least some of the time.
So, here's the contract I'd like
to make with myself: I, Tanya, agree to learn how to spend my writing
time graciously and generously, without expecting that I will have
“something to show” for my effort. I will learn to follow my
intuition, even if that means changing my course and “throwing
away” the time I already spent going in the wrong direction (if
indeed there is such thing as a wrong direction – perhaps all wrong
directions are really part of the right direction, necessary
beginnings to an ending we wouldn't want to've reached any other
way).
"A longing to wander tears my heart when I hear trees rustling in the wind at evening. If one listens to them silently for a long time, this longing reveals its kernel, its meaning. It is not so much a matter of escaping from one's suffering, though it may seem to be so. It is a longing for home, for a memory of the mother, for new metaphors for life. It leads home. Every path leads homeward, every step is birth, every step is death, every grave is mother."
ReplyDeleteHermann Hesse